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Women have to allow themselves to be used: be useful or be ornamental
Given the state of modern courtship, in which sex precedes commitment, many women are concerned about "being used" in the dating process. Unfortunately, there is no way around this. Just like most men have to expose themselves to potentially being used for their resources to secure a relationship, most women have to allow themselves to run the risk of being used sexually to get the same. The alternative to being used is being ornamental, which (for better or worse) is not a viable option for most women. That said, in this episode, I discuss how to reduce the likelihood of poor dating outcomes for women in light of this reality.
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Mission accomplished: my commitment has been fulfilled
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When I started this channel, I made a commitment to myself that I would publish content regularly for three years before I allowed myself to evaluate whether I would continue with the project. Today my commitment to myself has been fulfilled. In this episode, I talk about my process and some of the tools that helped me stay disciplined in the absence of any positive reinforcement. I also briefl...
Good transactions are invisible: no one notices when it's working
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The fundamental premise of my forthcoming book, "The Value of Others," is that relationships are the media in which value is transacted. Some people balk at this definition because it runs counter to the felt experience of their own relationships. However, this could be due to the fact that their relationships are functional. In a good relationship, the transaction is invisible. It's generally ...
Many women are construction workers: it's a young person's job
Просмотров 78 тыс.День назад
Many women are construction workers: it's a young person's job
Romance is a game of hide-and-seek: remembering that you're already whole
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Romance is a game of hide-and-seek: remembering that you're already whole
How to deal with perfectionism: exposing its inner workings
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How to deal with perfectionism: exposing its inner workings
How women make it difficult to love them: make it easy to get what you want
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How women make it difficult to love them: make it easy to get what you want
Strike when the iron is cold: the importance of waiting for your moment
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Strike when the iron is cold: the importance of waiting for your moment
Never punish people for doing what you want: the power of shaping
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Never punish people for doing what you want: the power of shaping
Every woman is two women: exploring the wild west
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Every woman is two women: exploring the wild west
Being famous is like being a woman: musings on a haircut
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Being famous is like being a woman: musings on a haircut
The court does not deal in trifles: most things aren't worth your time
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The court does not deal in trifles: most things aren't worth your time
How to drop a handkerchief: women initiate relationships
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How to drop a handkerchief: women initiate relationships
The business of suffering: every solution needs a problem
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The business of suffering: every solution needs a problem
The source of the problem: what people fail to understand about mental illness
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The source of the problem: what people fail to understand about mental illness
The gift of nothingness: seeing the everyday miracle
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The gift of nothingness: seeing the everyday miracle
Limitations make you better: figure out your batman rules
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Limitations make you better: figure out your batman rules
The trap of understanding: considerations are concessions
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The trap of understanding: considerations are concessions
Why men get married: it's not about you
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Why men get married: it's not about you
Women over 30: the game isn't over yet
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Women over 30: the game isn't over yet
The marriage ultimatum: it's not personal, just business
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The marriage ultimatum: it's not personal, just business
How to not be part of the problem: your anger isn't helping
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How to not be part of the problem: your anger isn't helping
You don't need money to get women: the three things that work
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You don't need money to get women: the three things that work
Responding to my female critics: the importance of intentional sexuality
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Responding to my female critics: the importance of intentional sexuality
How to be confident without success: be your own prophet
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How to be confident without success: be your own prophet
Women do the right things with the wrong men: the good times-to-hassle ratio
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Women do the right things with the wrong men: the good times-to-hassle ratio
Men do the right things with the wrong women: the importance of a system
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Men do the right things with the wrong women: the importance of a system
The price of living your own life: lack of understanding is a test of your character
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The price of living your own life: lack of understanding is a test of your character
Why some people GET SO UPSET with my content: responding to haters
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Why some people GET SO UPSET with my content: responding to haters
How to handle RELATIONSHIP JEALOUSY: act like the king that you are
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How to handle RELATIONSHIP JEALOUSY: act like the king that you are

Комментарии

  • @mthxjzz6462
    @mthxjzz6462 5 часов назад

    But equality?!👌😂

  • @Oslohiker
    @Oslohiker 5 часов назад

    Only way a woman can find out if a guy is a quality guy or not is to ask men to be trusted, meaning their father or their brothers. Other than that is will be shear luck. That mean that they can't and should not sleep around....

  • @user-ov9eu4gx3z
    @user-ov9eu4gx3z 5 часов назад

    Okay now you’re just stirring the pot for views. It’s June, desperate times call for desperate measures.

  • @user-gr1gb8mz7d
    @user-gr1gb8mz7d 6 часов назад

    You are too much really

  • @anewlifestirring
    @anewlifestirring 6 часов назад

    Very meaningful You feel hungry when you need food, thirsty when you need water and in love when you crave for a companion and not when you are fully satisfied Once you find this person you no longer crave but want to avoid being flooded and overwhelmed

  • @herbalsoups
    @herbalsoups 6 часов назад

    I’m happy you said the same applies to men. Either be used or be ornamental. And please men, assess whether you’re really a good catch or not. Cause if you’re not you need to allow yourself to be used more.

  • @robplazzman6049
    @robplazzman6049 6 часов назад

    Maybe they are someone who is only nice when they want something. And they are judging you on their own behaviour.

  • @truerosie
    @truerosie 6 часов назад

    I am so glad I am not in the relationship market.

  • @malinoisamericanakita2022
    @malinoisamericanakita2022 6 часов назад

    They dislike your videos and swipe away .. sad

  • @aryastar2464
    @aryastar2464 6 часов назад

    As a woman with a relatively lower body count than the ‘average’, I can relate to some of these apprehensions towards men with high body counts. Unfortunately, I haven’t been able to find much info on that that doesn’t just apply the ‘boys will be boys’ rhetoric

  • @Any5364B
    @Any5364B 6 часов назад

    Your work is in a class all of its own. I won the lottery so to speak. I was a tall male model, US Marine, software engineer and I was so successful I retired early. I am in my mid 50s and presently have a 29 year old gf who weighs 100 lbs. Because of my looks, intelligence and large member, I have never been on the losing side of a long-term relationship or marriage. I have dumped every single girl I have been with and just keep upgrading every few years. I say all this to say, memorize what Ryan is teaching as he is spot on. I would also add that men also need to learn sexual DOM, if not physically, then the mental side of it. You will succeed from the mental prospective with Ryan's advice. But do not neglect the gym also.

  • @emZee1994
    @emZee1994 6 часов назад

    True for men too

  • @Titoroski187
    @Titoroski187 6 часов назад

    You always give the best, worst advice

  • @themancuniancandidate2744
    @themancuniancandidate2744 7 часов назад

    The problem with such philosophical arguments for the existence of a god is that they apply just as equally to ANY supernatural entity. Remove the word "God" from your hypothesis, and insert the words "Universe Creating Pixies" and they apply with just as much relevance. You can't argue something into existence.

  • @bezoznaught5261
    @bezoznaught5261 7 часов назад

    Imagine a woman apologizing XD

  • @MichaelEdwardWright1
    @MichaelEdwardWright1 7 часов назад

    Most women have it far too easy to take this advice, and if they do their discernment will be left wanting.

  • @miesanderson3408
    @miesanderson3408 7 часов назад

    Exactly! Thank you finally a voice of reason.

  • @LittleMew133
    @LittleMew133 7 часов назад

    TROPHY WIVES BE QUAKING!

  • @johnnylego807
    @johnnylego807 7 часов назад

    Great analysis on the subject. there ain’t many.

  • @johnnylego807
    @johnnylego807 7 часов назад

    Excellent video!

  • @TheOneG36
    @TheOneG36 7 часов назад

    Hä? WTF are you talking about? when someone says no i never felt more for that person no matter if woman or men..... if my girlfriend starts saying no to me its over actually.... i guess your talkin Bullshit?

  • @steven_king
    @steven_king 7 часов назад

    This has really helped me in my new relationship. I know you say “the best relationships you don’t notice the transactions being exchanged” ...but I figured, why not call a spade a spade. I know she loves me...but she could love a lot of guys. She’s hot. Course...I could also love a lot of girls, looks fade and I do well. But I love her, and want to be with her. She likes spending money...I’m good at making it. Sex with her motivates me to want to make more of it (money)...and I don’t mind giving it to her. We still have romance. I’m just “daddy”...and I like it like that. She’s got goods, and I’ve got goods...I don’t mind the trade at all... and we’re probably the best either one of us could do otherwise (least I hope she feels that way)

  • @canofanger
    @canofanger 7 часов назад

    Never forget - YOU are the prize.

  • @dks13827
    @dks13827 7 часов назад

    How many married American men are like monks ?????? zillions.

  • @dks13827
    @dks13827 7 часов назад

    Caused a broken family, 2 nice kids and a nice nice house. All gone. For what ?? why ?? shxt tests ?? why ???

  • @AC-me1vr
    @AC-me1vr 7 часов назад

    There's always the option of avoiding all this and abstaining until marriage, which is what we chose. Although, that *was* 15 years ago, before Tinder, and hook-up culture, and "sex precedes commitment" sadly all became the norm.

  • @emZee1994
    @emZee1994 7 часов назад

    Really thought a solution might have been proposed at the end of this haha

  • @freespirit4977
    @freespirit4977 7 часов назад

    Not sure if women got anything out of the video but as a man i got what i need to do at my job for promotion 😅

  • @goldenpharaoh
    @goldenpharaoh 8 часов назад

    Pitch Perfect. Spot On.

  • @CedarRoofsOnly
    @CedarRoofsOnly 8 часов назад

    What a mind F^#%$&*%$

  • @TheOneG36
    @TheOneG36 8 часов назад

    yes, i saw this, this year at least 5 times soooo. just YES.....

  • @JJ-wi2uw
    @JJ-wi2uw 8 часов назад

    As I stated in an earlier comment; Women's “specialness” (self-serving solipsism, turbo-charged by the Societal Feminine Imperative & Gynocentric Zeitgeist) creates a false narrative that tells them they don’t have to earn anything, that they deserve the best even though they don’t match it by any measure, and they have all the time in the world to do so. The WALL remains undefeated and on the other side of the Wall is irrelevance and cats.

  • @cristianmicu
    @cristianmicu 8 часов назад

    in other words .. i love you--->>>>> fck off and mean can be mean on a level that didnt crossed your mind, especially if you show obvious sensibility and weakness towards anything that can be realized by an opposing being, no matter if human or ..non human.. animal

  • @JJ-wi2uw
    @JJ-wi2uw 8 часов назад

    Women also use the dating process ..... free dinners, drinks, gifts, trips. etc.

  • @ForrestMystic
    @ForrestMystic 8 часов назад

    You're assuming all women sleep with guys they don't like quickly.

  • @njfuentesrespecter81
    @njfuentesrespecter81 8 часов назад

    They want the RESPECT of someone who contributes like a man is expected to, without actually earning that respect through their labor.

  • @emZee1994
    @emZee1994 8 часов назад

    Hypergamy doesn't negate the game. You still need game. Hypergamy just makes the game easier

  • @per_growth
    @per_growth 8 часов назад

    Been happily married to my wife for 25y. The golden rule I live by is this (and this goes for both MEN and WOMEN): Live your life every day so that you are extremely hard to replace. For men: 1) Be the best provider you can be 2) Take care of your family 3) Be a leader that is always present For women: 1) Keep yourself attractive - and provide regular sex. 2) Be obedient and take care of your family 3) Don't make life complicated for your husband.

  • @JJ-wi2uw
    @JJ-wi2uw 8 часов назад

    Women will happily and enthusiastically let themselves be used by riding the "C*ck Carousel" throughout their younger years with Alpha's and/or as mercenaries for high value men's cash and prizes then reach their "epiphany" phase where they are not longer as hot, firm and tight as they used to be and they can see "The Wall" looming ahead; so they start looking for as high value a man as possible to settle down with that will be ignorant as to her past or will be willing to overlook it. Women's “specialness” (self-serving solipsism, turbo-charged by the Societal Feminine Imperative & Gynocentric Zeitgeist) creates a false narrative that tells them they don’t have to earn anything, they deserve the best even though they don’t match it by any measure, they have all the time in the world, and so on, and so on.

  • @berekexer56
    @berekexer56 8 часов назад

    Going into business or academia, you should also have the skepticism that someone is a fraud. That’s just healthy

  • @ForrestMystic
    @ForrestMystic 8 часов назад

    Its really odd to be a former fat girl who lost weight, and NOW people treat me entirely differently. So yeah, I can imagine that girls who were always attractive must be... something.

  • @bobbieSng
    @bobbieSng 8 часов назад

    Female here - never thought to test anybody I’ve been w, that’s too much game and just make things complicated. I very much appreciate a man that calls me out (in a loving manner) on my shit

  • @Nordic_Sky
    @Nordic_Sky 9 часов назад

    "When it comes to sex, it is a buyer's market, not a seller's market." No. This might be true for the top 0.1%. But for the vast majority of men, women control access to sex. And they are SUPER picky and entitled. These are the 4s who think they are 9s. And they are the majority.

  • @Rondo312
    @Rondo312 9 часов назад

    Great dynamics in this discussion. This is a perfect example of generational differences in understanding oneself and relationships with women. Baby Boomer men and older relied almost solely on instinctive masculinity and stoicism. Whereas the younger generation of men is more formally educated, overly thoughtful, and inundated with massive amounts of information causing them to overthink the simplest interactions with the female species.

  • @emZee1994
    @emZee1994 9 часов назад

    Never let a woman buy you with sex. Amazing advice

  • @MedicalBatteryLaw
    @MedicalBatteryLaw 9 часов назад

    Loved this essay. Eloquent and deep. Maybe girls also need to acquire more eloquence and depth. (Two other "useful" traits, I should think...) As they're invisible, they're not "ornamental . ❤

  • @astralexplorer7674
    @astralexplorer7674 9 часов назад

    goodness! was this for guys or girls! ladies are furious in comments! well done Doc!

  • @WESTERNBOUNDTV
    @WESTERNBOUNDTV 9 часов назад

    1:15 is what all these red pill weirdos need to understand

  • @Accentor100
    @Accentor100 9 часов назад

    Male audience: "This is solid advice, too bad few if any women will follow it." Female audience: " chirp...chirp...chirp...chirp..."

  • @jaywalks9918
    @jaywalks9918 9 часов назад

    Women can't discern, which is why they learn to exploit through emotional manipulation.